Great article about how to help a grieving friend. Too many times one does more harm trying to help by doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing. Helping a grieving friend requires some understanding of grief itself
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The article, “What Your Grieving Friend Really Needs :When someone you love dies, every single relationship in your life is reevaluated”, by Lisa Ingrassia states
“My feelings were crushed the night my father died. My entire world exploded when my father died.
As I silently observed my father take his last breath, I felt my heart beat hard inside my chest, exactly six times before I burst into uncontrollable tears. And then suddenly my sobbing stopped and so did my entire world.
My father’s death was expected after a very long illness. But that still did not prepare me for the gut wrenching, debilitating pain of grief. The days leading up to his death were mentally exhausting. Two days before my father died I sat next to his hospital bed begging him not to go, not to leave me alone. And then the man who held my hand my entire life and gave me butterfly kisses was suddenly gone forever.
You are never ready to say good bye to a person of significance in your life.
The days following my father’s death, I felt like the drunk friend who arrived to the party late. I found myself angry, sad and devastated constantly misjudging everyone’s well meaning actions. My thoughts revolved around one thought, “My father just died, my entire world just exploded, how do I go on?”
When someone you love dies, every single relationship in your life is reevaluated. Friendships as well as relations with family members are now ranked by who offered condolences, who texted you, who picked up the phone and maybe even who “liked” your latest photo of your deceased loved one on social media. If your loved one endured a lengthy illness you may even find yourself evaluating friendships based on who was there for you during the illness.”
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