Good article on grief of losing a spouse suddenly and its effects on Christmas. Please also review our Grief Counseling Certification to learn more.
The article, The first holiday after the sudden death of a spouse, by Patti Urban states
“For many, this time last year was just another holiday season with the same traditions and preparations. All the usual activities, holiday parties, delicious meals and goodies, and visits with friends and family. Santa would come and bring lots of gifts. Midnight Mass was attended to rejoice in the birth of the baby Jesus.
This year, however it is totally different. You see, somewhere during the course of the year, a loved one was diagnosed with a terminal illness. And they couldn’t beat the odds. After months of treatment which proved useless and the introduction to hospice care and its discharge have left family members shaking their head wondering what the heck happened. They look back on pictures from a year ago where a normal, happy family existed, and today see a family in grief, torn apart by the death of someone they loved.
Often what happens is that there are lots of friends and family that visit while the loved one is sick and dying. Then after the services, the family often finds themselves alone. Really alone. And struggling to go on. Add in Christmas and New Years and you have a recipe for disaster.
It’s not enough to just put one foot in front of the other and keep on going. For the wife whose husband died leaving her with young kids and very little income to the husband whose wife died leaving him with his job and money, but with no one to take care of the kids, Christmas just plain does a number on everyone’s emotions. It’s gone from the holiday the family loved to a holiday divided: the holiday before the death and the new, barely able to keep it together holiday of after the death.”
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